All that the Mind wants is Attention and Pampering;
All that the Ego wants is Importance and Praise;
All that the Heart wants is Love and Care.
When you are grounded in Sadhana (Spiritual practices), Seva (service - action without any expectation) and Satsang (living the knowledge), you are able to drop the wants of YOUR mind, ego and heart. Then you become sensitive to the Minds, Egos and Hearts around you and you know exactly when to give what to whom :-).
And when a person gets all the three from you, the person is yours. Then you have won the belongingness, trust and surrender of that person.
[All aspiring/existing Art of Living teachers/leaders, do you get the tip?]